Hi, it’s Jasmyne with Relate Family Therapy in Centennial, Colorado. I want tell you you have 20 minutes to do anything. Sometimes we feel like we’re burdened with time. We feel like we can’t get anything done, and we’re completely overwhelmed. But when I talk to clients about what’s in their way, they often don’t really know. They just sense that they shouldn’t do something. They feel like it’s a black to a white that “once I started with it I’m going to have to finish it,” and it can become very overwhelming. But I often say, “What if you just gave it 20 minutes? What if you took 20 minutes to just get started, and then after that time you stop. You can even set a timer and just make sure it’s very definitive.” People often believe that they can do something for 20 minutes, and this even works for kids. A lot of times when kids have homework or they have some sort of a chore that no one wants to do, if you say, “Just do it for 20 minutes and walk away,” they’ll at least be started on it. They are often more apt to try it. But, one of the problems and caveats with it is you have to be willing to give up after 20 minutes. You can’t keep going. You have to allow yourself to say, “You know what, I’m just giving this the 20 minutes”, and then after that you can move on to something else. Then, if you take that break and feel like you need to come back to it, and it’s really something that’s important to you to finish, then give yourself the permission and the go ahead and go finish it out. But just taking those 20 minutes and allowing yourself to say, “Yeah. It’s worth starting, and it’s something I feel is important, but I don’t necessarily want to invest all my time into it, but I can give in 20 minutes.”
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