The therapists at Relate Family Therapy & Counseling can help you and your partner know what your triggers are, as well as learn how to address your trauma. While none of your past trauma might be the fault of your partner, they can be a huge source of support, strength, and safety while working through it. It can even be empowering for both of you to learn skills around trauma and coping so that you can be there for one another and build an even stronger foundation for your relationship.
Your partner says some offhand remark, and now you're on edge. You might shut down or scream. You might cry or self-isolate. You're not even sure why you're so upset, or maybe you are aware of what happened. It's likely that a past trauma was triggered, and this trauma can pre-date your relationship by years and years. That doesn't make it any less real or any less impactful, but it can be something really difficult to manage, and it can strain a relationship.